Essek tends to take a long time to get off, and so figures that any sexual encounter he has is going to be unreciprocated. he's accepted this and doesn't mind, but is pleasantly surprised when his partner proves to be far more patient than he expected

+cute but not required: praise kink, sexual use of magic, enthusiastic encouragement of loudness
+cis or trans Essek equally fine
-no noncon / dubcon, no bathroom stuff
-no Beau/Yasha+Essek, Trent+Essek, or Verin+Essek - otherwise follow your heart